In last night’s blog post about Saturn and love, I ended the post by asking “How’s your love life” and the responses so far (in the comments) have been simple and poignant.
Listen, I’ll tell you about my time in the trenches and my Venus is wack okay? I’m NOT talking to you from the land of superplusgoodhealthVenus land.
My Venus ONLY has outer-planet aspects, one good and two stressful AND she’s in the sacrificial doormat oh yes so very compassionate 12th House.
But she’s active. It’s ENERGY.
Even me, La Ugly Ducking with the house-of-cards-Venus can… find (and *find* IS the wrong word) love.
Thing is this: love is often different than how we fantasize it will be. It has pieces of the dream, but it’s more than the dream. It’s better.
So here’s one thing you can do. Examine the condition of your natal Venus, all the aspects, and begin to work, begin to live those aspects. Understand them.
Do you have a Venus Pluto aspect? Observe how you wind up in power struggle and how it hurts you, how you get too intense too soon and wind up destroying that which you hold dear.
Do you have a Venus Uranus aspect? Do you run? Do you not know how to balance getting close and leaving space for yourself?
Do you have a Venus Neptune aspect? Do your romantic ideals cloud your eyes and then you come crashing down? Do you disappear and not know it and then become resentful because you’re gone?
Do you have Venus Saturn and feel ugly and reject them before they can reject you?
Do you have Venus Moon and can’t quite integrate your sexuality and your nurturing and all those lessons your mother taught you which maybe hurt more than helped–
And so on…
Aquarius Season, the sign of the scientist, is coming. Put your Venus on the table and examine her 😉
Think about, really think about what YOU are doing when you get in relationship and how it goes wrong because, yes, the common thing in all your busted up loves is YOU i.e. who you choose and/or how you behave once you get what, or who, you want.
You can stop being self-destructive. But you must get to know your Venus to know your particular brand of self-destructive.
What do you do wrong?
xo
17 thoughts on “Your Venus And How To Have A Lovely Love Life Filled With Lovely Love”
Yes, it is an overweight Venus!
Good aspects? – it is conjunct Mars, trine Saturn and sextile Mercury – they’re not bad aspects but not sure they compensate. Can you heal a shot gun wound with an aspirine?
those *are* some nice aspects. Venus + Mars = yummy passionate 🙂 Venus trine Saturn makes you serious in love (also nice in my opinion) and sextile Mercury? How articulate are you? A lot, I bet. Busy busy busy Venus 🙂
What if I have everything? Venus in 12th house in Pisces square Uranus, Pluto on DSC and Saturn smack in the middle of the 7th house! Going to hide now!
that is a heavy Venus….
any soft aspects to help it out?
Thanks. I’ll be requesting a reading soon for more tips! 😉
If it wasn’t for your posts MoonPluto, I would’ve given up hope. My Moon-Pluto conjunction in Virgo/6th is squaring my Venus-Mars conjunction in Gemini/3rd. All of my long-term relationships have crashed and burned. It wasn’t until a few years ago learning astrology I found out about the dreaded Venus square Pluto. Everyone seems to think it’s dire, but because of your positivity I’m hanging on! That must be my Jupiter in Libra/7th. Lol. 😉
awwww this comment SO touched my heart! You made me smile in the middle of a very boring commute – thank you! 🙂
Venus Pluto is not doomed – we all just have to learn to work with what we got– we all got somethin–
Think of your Venus as *busy* rather than harassed by Sir Pluto – reframe it and learn what the energy is about. Flip it on its side. It’s all dual – there is high side and a low side. We can’t turn squares into trines but we can…. understand the energy of said squares better than anyone – and then help others too–
🙂 truly hope so! now i have to figure out if i am venus pluto too lol that sounded very true for me…
you can find a free chart at astro.com or other free sites of course and see what your venus aspects are – but it could be something else in your chart as well — that could give this sort of thing — pluto in the 7th for example
venus neptune chick, libra venus. single at 47, never married. really wish i would have read astrology a long time ago!! sigh. still hoping for a miracle.
slh2346, more than most people, venus neptune chicks KNOWS that miracles happen 🙂
moonpluto- I think that you are a beautiful swan! (not an ugly duckling at all.) My Venus is in 7th house Libra, but square Saturn and Moon. I know what my Saturn Venus issues are, but they seem to be different than the standard examples of this.
I do boundaries wrong, and it seems Saturn in Libra would be all about lessons (Saturn) in having good boundaries (Saturn) in relationships (Libra). Although, it would do me good to really learn about the 6 major aspects my Venus makes. 😉
Wooo yeah for upcoming Aquarius energy! I can’t wait!
Hmmm… my Venus is in Aquarius second house and is conjunct Mercury,opposite Jupiter, squares Neptune and trines my midheaven. She is pretty busy.
From what I understand : detached and disiilusioned. Oh well 🙂 Thanks MP
Nice post! My Aries Venus is opposite Uranus and I find that either you are my friend/ lover or you aren’t. When that line gets crossed, you’ll never hear from me again. Venus is also square my moon which, I think, lends to my unaffectionate, unromantic nature. I feel everything inside, but don’t feel secure in expressing the emotions. Plus, my mother passed away in my early teens, but she was never arond, as my father raised us after the divorce. Venus is also square to my Nodes, but I haven’t gotten a grasp on that aspect, yet.
Thanks, Fishy 🙂
Venus squ your Nodes – your love nature seems to get IN THE WAY – a stumbling block of sorts – but it will/can only make you work harder – at love and at securing your DESINTY
That makes sense!! 🙂