Do you leave situations before they get really bad? Or do you wait until bad becomes unbearable. In both instances, you know it can’t last, but one person waits, kinda hoping. The other type? They run.
I remember reading once that Pisces types (Pisces North Node, too much 12th House, for example) tend to stick around too long. I know that I have. You get dirt on your face from situations wiping their feet on ya.
Related tangent: was on the phone the other day with my sister and worried about these strange small winged flying things around the apartment. Fruit flies? Gnats? And she said, Yes, you have the problem with pestilence!
Too many times in my life, I’ve gotten bugged which usually signaled, I swear, that it was time to leave that place, actually PAST THE TIME to leave.
One of these transits was Saturn (harsh) in Virgo on my Moon (home) and Pluto (disgusting) with transiting Uranus (sudden) in Pisces opposing. More than the big squeeze – it was the big And We Shall Destroy You. I had to leave and had to leave fast. Lost almost everything. And then came the rebuild. Such things are possible.
It makes me think of the Magician card in the Tarot. The skill to create something out of nothing. As above so below. We mirror God when we create. And when we survive.
So how do you leave? And can you connect it to your natal?
Although I have a Cancer Stellium, it’s in my 11th House. I can definitely GO (i.e. Uranus knows how to flee). But I cling until forced out. My goal? To not wait that long.
And you?
Note to self: Moon square Saturn: remembering hard times past
11 thoughts on “When Do You Leave? Remembering Saturn In Virgo”
I stay around for a while because I have to be certain that I have exhausted all the avenues; because once I leave I never come back. Even if the circumstances of my departure were not acrimonious.
I realize I keep going back until it’s DONE *for me*
It may be done for them or for IT (because these situations may not be people) – but I need an “escape” the way Beth kinda described it…. I can’t do the rabid amputate.
I can’t amputate either, unless somebody really crosses a line. I do disappear, though, if possible; I walked right into trouble last year, by not staying away from somewhere, once I’d backed off. That still stings.
Pisces moon here, as well as Mars opposite Neptune.
I do the fishy thing, you know, going away, coming back, going away longer, come back a shorter time, ad finitum until the message is received. Efficient, no. Easier on my nerves, yes.
The one time I hauled up stakes and moved away, I had to call my sister who smacked me over the head (figuratively) to remind me why I left. We are so dense, us Neptune people.
I love the way you describe it. That’s what I *need* to do to keep my sanity. Whenever I make a hard/fast break, I regret it – and then swim back. Yes some of need to do it that way — and often, I find, others don’t understand this way. They always suggest “pull the band aid off” or a kind of radical cold turkey approach which can be really damaging. One thing I recently learned – how important it is who you ask for advice! Because the common wisdom often really sucks!
AHA!!!
So THAT’S why I do that. (Plenty of 12th house stuff.)
Like Lindsey, I stay way too long. Usually because I’ve blamed myself for not making it work. By the time I leave, I’m exhausted, and then creating something new from a place of fear.
Not good.
So that’s what I’ve been working on. MP, making it my goal as well – to not wait that long, and then leave in a GOOD place, so what comes next is wonderful.
I can’t leave. I’m like one of those people in abusive relationships who just keeps taking shit. But I left on Christmas Day, I left. OF course I spend most of my time wishing for him to show up and make it okay. But I left; a very difficult feat indeed.
it’s a big deal, CW.
Ya know what though …. dare I say it… that feeling will pass. There will come a time when you will start wishing for *other things*
As much as I hate to admit it, I stay well past when a situation gets BAD. But when I leave, I amputate. I think it might be my Taurus, the sign that often dislikes change. But I have Mars-Uranus in Scorpio – there is the amputation!
I should have clarified. My post wasn’t about relationships. You should see what I do with relationships! I prefer not to have a single one and would prefer total isolation if it meant having to deal with an a-hole. I was thinking of work situations, organizations I’ve been in, a college I went to, and even towns I’ve lived. That Mars-Uranus sits in my 7th, so it gets amplified in relationships, making it so easy for me to cut them out.
I hear ya. Yup, that’ll do it (mars/ur in 7th)… The post was def about situations or people…