What Kind Of Lover Are You? What’s In Your 8th House?

"venus in the 8th house"

I was on the train thinking about the 8th House. Not my 8th House but the 8th House of others.

For me it’s not a big player (as I type this though I am disagreeing with myself!) although Pluto is prominent in my chart, in my 1st House, conjunct my Moon and well-aspected. A well-aspected Pluto = most likely not a dick πŸ˜‰

8th House people, when it comes to sex… they’re just… different than you and me non-8th House people πŸ˜‰

And I was thinking to myself: Self! The 8th House describes the kind of lover you are (along with your Mars and Venus and other chart stuff!)… so I thought about my Venus in Cancer 8th House friend and I thought about my Venus in Aquarius 8th House friend and I thought about my 8th House Venus in Gemini friend and, well, friends, they are just… *horny* in a different way than… non-8th House people! More experimentation, more variety, more orgies, more OVERALL.

They get their needs met through sexual expression or sexual conquest or sexual touch or sexual situations or sexual disturbance. And so on.

And I still don’t quite understand why I have drawn these 8th House Venus people to me. I have Chiron there after all. The sex-therapist placement πŸ˜‰ And perhaps that is why. But why? It’s not like I’m having sex with these 8th House people!

I’ll figure it out. Eventually. It’s fun to think about.

So with my 8th House Chiron, I’m either healing you or getting hurt. The 8th House for me is not where I find my needs get met (Jeanne Avery’s lovely phrase for the 8th House). With an 8th House Chiron, the vulnerability (Chiron) is intense (8th House) and it squares my Sun: need to integrate sexuality with identity and I don’t know if I ever will and I don’t know if I have to but if I were my astrologer I would certainly try to advise me to do such πŸ˜‰


I am thinking of another person now with a slew of outer planets in her 8th House and all I can say about that is…Β it’s Β complicated, each planet delivering its own heavy energy: the seriousness of Saturn, the obsessive of Pluto, the freaky of Uranus and then when we are witness to such a constellation, we pray those biggies are well-aspected, for the sake of all involved πŸ˜‰

What’s in your 8th House? Do you express it? How does it express? Or do you repress and why?

Love, MP

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