Someone on Twitter linked me this morning and it inspired me to write more on this topic, from personal experience.
Venus square Saturn is a sense of duty in love, yup, you feel responsible, but you wind up feeling responsible for the other person, or for the “wrong” person or you wind up doing something, taking some action but it’s the “wrong” action i.e. wrong for you but yet you feel this DUTY! TO DO IT!
And you have to pull back pull back pull back. And that’s the Saturn, the chill. It feels like a chill to them and you. But you have to pull back because you were becoming them. Venus square Saturn is actually an aspect of the “merge” although people don’t usually talk about it this way because we associate Neptune with merging but obviously Venus square Saturn is BOUNDARY PROBLEMS!
Venus is love and Saturn is feeling like yer the man (or woman) for the job even when it’s not your job! Venus square Saturn says: take responsibility for yourself.
How do you work with this aspect? Does it get better as you get older? I think so. Self-awareness of course is key and you need to BE in relationships to “work on” this aspect.
You must learn the difference between your work, your burden and their work, their burden. Also, know what YOU WANT in the Venus realms. Not just trying to fulfill what they want, especially if what you want and what they want is different. Venus square Saturn will do what the other wants without thinking. That’s the misguided duty part.
And what helps a Venus square Saturn is making personal, authentic decisions. To be duty-bound to YOURSELF first.
Do you have a Venus Saturn aspect in your chart?
xo
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Yep. The closest aspect in my chart is my Venus Saturn Neptune T-square…with Saturn as the focal planet. Oh, and angular too by the way. I’ll be 50 next week, and the lessons from this aspect have been immense. There was a lot of feeling unworthy of love, or undeserving of love….money too. Venus Saturn has a lot to do with worth and value financially and emotionally. It came down to feeling that I had to ‘earn’ love. Hopefully I’m a little bit wiser now after all that hell. Oh….and Venus Saturn people always feel unattractive too in their younger years. It took me a long long time to realize that I was actually very attractive! Dang! If only I had known it when I was younger. The good thing though, is that Venus Saturn women always look better as they get older..and that is true too. We come into our own.
Oh yes, I concur — that has been my experience. I also have Ven/Nep/Sat square….
I have all of the Venus/Saturn, all of it. Not only are they squared, but they’re mutually receptive. Everything related to Venus is work for me, and I’ve never stopped working, because it’s always seemed so attractive to me. Though, less so as I get older, because I’m beginning to accept (Saturn) that it isn’t going to happen. Which is just as well, because I’ve come to understand that love is hard work, and I’ve worked enough for the things I never actually got. As I said in my earlier post, fantasy is looking like a viable alternative; I’ve never really given up on fantasy- just on reality ever living up to it.
Saturn square Venus
+ Neptune opposite Venus, just in case SsqV isn’t enough
Only after the Saturn Return have I started to re-train myself to think that I’m not the savior, not the mom, not the doctor to the other person. Still difficult to detach at times, but I’m doing a lot better.
At what point do I just become a callous bitch? lol
I feel that going from one extreme to the other is a possibility here.
Duty, Duty, Duty – retro-venus in aries (12th house) square Saturn in Cap (10th) Venus is the apex (?) of my T-square, squaring moon in Cancer (4th house) – being born an old wise soul…. Always taking care of someone – divine love – unconditional – yes boundaries are a problem, the older I get the more I realize when I can say no and when I must do the right thing because no one else will – when it comes to caring for people, animals – Hardest thing – FUN
I have the sextile and to be honest, all of the above still applies. But I was thinking, how about framing it as the joy of work, and duty? Venus Saturn speaks of mature love, love that is so rich and wise that duty follows naturally, intuitively – you want to fulfill the duty required because it’s so rewarding.
It’s like being a mother – you have a duty towards your child, but along with that duty Nature gives the gift of love so strong you love fulfilling that child’s needs (most of the time anyway!) So in one sense you are limited, but in another sense set free to explore the bounty of Venus to a depth you might not bother with if there were no limits.
Er, if you get my drift 🙂
How you want to frame it works for me, we all learn from each other here – my experience though of my fixed venus saturn square is without joy
the phrase “square saturn” is the definition of Without Joy 😉
Sextile is a “pleasant” aspect even when Saturn is involved there’s still that glimpse of something “workable” – that “whistle while you work”
venus square saturn is “cry while you work” lol
I’m a traditionalist. Squares push us but they hurt. Of my annoying aspects, this may be 1st on the list that i’d trade in. Well this or
Venus square Neptune or Chiron square Sun
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Omg this is seriously the freaking story of my life!!!!!!! Venus square (ready?) Saturn, Pluto and MC with Neptune conj Asc…
Thank u so much for this. I need to ponder more on it!
thank u spacerockz…..
Ah you are one of the Saturn Pluto peeps in Libra right? I am trying to remember….. with MC there dang — let’s get that career moving….
Yes! I want to open my own store! Still not sure what kind but its been something I’ve been thinking abt for some time now!! Maybe soaps & candles shop or a bodega for all the local hidden Spanish peeps (&others) working hard in my town!