Do you know anyone with a busy 7th House? By busy I mean a bunch of planets there or even one juicy one. I’ll never forget the first time I met my niece, who was 6 or 7 at the time, and I was amazed by her cuteness, her brightness, and her bossiness.
Fellow Star Gazers, Cancer is a cardinal sign, but unless there’s something freaky going on, I don’t consider the breed to be bossy.
This monster, this kid was so… skilled in the arts of not only manipulation but domination that… I prayed not only for her but for myself to survive the weekend.
I learned later that this little girl has Mars in the 7th House, in Capricorn. Capricorn can be bossy and in the 7th, she’s going to boss you. It was a Cancerian challenge and I was no match for it.
It wasn’t until the night before I left that I saw the other side to this little girl. She has a Cancer Moon in the 12th House and the tears oh the tears that flowed, genuine tears, at the restaurant, in public, when she realized I was leaving the next day. I felt closer to her in that moment. See, I could identify with the tears, not as tactic but as purity, pure longing and wishing for things to be otherwise.
When I was young, I did not dream of being a mother. I only faced the biological urges in my 30s. Never was one of those gals who squealed “I LOVE kids, yes I want to be a teacher!!” I wanted a room of my own and time to write. In my middle-age now, I sometimes wish I had had the opportunity to have had a houseful of children. It wasn’t until I made this one friend in my early 30s who had two daughters that I finally found my soulmates in the world of children. And for the first time, someone believed that I would make a good mother and told me so. (Sagittarians tend to tell me this but they are notoriously trusting 😉
Earlier this week I had a dream that I had a baby and that the next day the baby was older, toddler-age, and in the dream I felt anxious. Women getting older who didn’t have children, for whatever reason, must confront the end to this cycle. I’m not quite there yet, but on my way.
The Cancer (woman or man) must nurture someone, something. If not children, then a dream, then parents or siblings, friends, a garden, a home, other people’s children, the self, God, beliefs, animals, a room of one’s own to write in. We must nurture our mates and their dreams, their gardens, their God.
What do you nurture? Who nurtures you?
Contact me to talk about your mother 🙂
13 thoughts on “The Sun Is In Cancer: Who Are You Feeding?”
..you think? Never really considered it. Been at it as in journaling. At that age I couldn’t take the thoughts anymore. I was already dismissed by family as “the weird, quiet one”. Figured I’d write it out.
In an ethnic festival, held at night, indoors, I was just sitting there. Watching the people dance, feeling so removed, then boom! Saw napkins and pens and haven’t stopped since. Coincidently (?) that’s when my faith really exploded too.
Any hew. Thanks. From what I’ve read poets aren’t a bad bunch, in fact, they’re the ones we turn to when it hurts the most. My favorite kind of god. Unbiased experience.
You have a way with words. And yes, writing it out helps me too enormously. It gets IT out!
..thanks, MP! Been at since I was about 13/14.
I really appreciate your thoughtful reflection on my comment(s).
I’m familiar with suitors (in my after school special days) but have only a handful of “serious” comittments. I can be a bit passive-agressive too, which bugs me to no end, I’m often the first to acquiesce. Just not a fighter, in that way. You couldn’t be more right about control and sifting. From every angle, no less: bosses, co-workers, friends, frenemies, family, even a DMV lady! Any hew.
The man. Well. Hm. Good question! He’s often compared me to (in his words) the women he equally loves and is scared of: mother and sister. So, while we met when we were kids, twelve years later, I think he still wants the same: good ol’ fashioned unconditional love.
Now, if we lived in the same county? He’d want my womb. Yeah. It’s a complicated thing. He has my flower, I have his heart, we complete each others sentences- when one isn’t taking the mic. Aries rising if I remember, and lots of air too. Very comfy. Time evaporates. The earth doesn’t exist. Then we wake up and we’re both frightened (Composite Neptune conj. Moon/9th/Sag).
You are a poet, EW 🙂
I hate my seventh house. Cancer Sun, Venus and Mercury all in there. A very close Mars in Leo, eighth house. I’m pretty bossy too – with Capricorn rising (at 0.5 degrees) and Aries Moon. Neptune in the first house.
I want all these things for myself, but then they usually are in the form of other people, and the problem with other people is you can’t control them……
Hi Jay.
Ack! My Cancerian nurturing tendency reads this and says “nooo don’t hate your 7th house” 🙂 But I’ll hold back lol
But oh yeah your analysis is spot on, I think. Much better than my Mercury in Cancer ramblings this morning. Yes, the others have what you want… but the thing is YOU NEED THEM. You can’t do without them. And you have to accept that and give in to your…. for lack of a better word… “dependence” — or interdependence. To get all spiritual for a moment, it’s part of your karma (ugh) life path now that you need to…. support the other and support is the wrong word. Not quite accurate (says Virgo Moon)… Maybe dependent is the right word after all. Suddenly I wonder where your North Node is and think aha the answer would be there, crystallized, if only for a moment.
I read the placements you list and I think to myself, how beautiful. These are beautiful placements. The potential to be so giving, nurturing, helping but maybe you get walked on or used for it, not appreciated. And the Mars needs appreciation. And Aries Moon? Well, Aries Moon has no time for any of it 🙂
Which are the things you want for yourself? Why can’t you have them? I mean, if they are personal qualities, why can’t you have them? And what if they are in the form of others?
Damnit. AMP- you, how apropos- you’ve done it again! The photo, title, then first sentence especially, sucked me under. Your other post about choosing your opposite moon to feed you has been tickling my gears too. Don’t know if I can do it. I’m already an Aries rising. But a Mars-y moon too? Yikes.
I love a Cancer and have a packed 7th/Libra: Ceres, Pallas, Moon, Pluto, Jupiter and Saturn. Oy. Not sure what connection you’re making though, that a packed 7th is similar to a Cancer sun or to your niecy-poo? My Cancer seems like her and whoa nelly.
When he wants a girl to do his bidding it’s as if merely smiling would tumble her to the ground- at his feet. It’s true though, he’s always, constantly creating or caring for something or someone. The dedication and loyalty are admirable, lovable even.
Maybe this long, cotton, paper white, empire waist dress that’s shouting my ample cleavage has got me genuinely anticipating marriage. And babies. As in actively desiring. That’s not ever been the case. I’m of food, art and traveling (each and every dimension of all spaces): offspring fit…where?
About mommy-dearest, my womb ached about the time she gave birth to me. I haven’t felt that till now, almost 30. Thought it was a coincidence then. Maybe not?
So, yes, I may be getting with you about her and all such things. Drats. The tide is turning..my stretching, defiant Neptune and Saggie Sun in the 9th have for the first time begun to pout and whimper. What kind of cheese would you recommend?
Hi EW. Going to see if I can unpack my own thoughts from that post… 7th House people, for good or ill, draw in others fairly consistently. Then they have a choice to make. I don’t see them as alone and wanting (although other factors may create such a “problem.”)They may have to sift through the debris, but they get the chance to sift. At the same time, others try to control them. And at the same time, they try to control others. It’s a dance 🙂 But the connections are continually made. I did see my little niece’s Mars Cap 7th as being challenging but also our Mars were in opposition (not sure if by degree, but by sign) and this goes to show a totally diff way of going about… nearly everything. And yet she also has that Cancer Moon and the waterworks 🙂 Truly passive aggressive lol although her tears, to me, were pure sincerity.
I had a friend with a very busy 7th, personal and outer planets there. She was single and it was one guy after the other. Her search was helped by the continual opportunity even though she was trying to find “the one,” she had many auditioning.
You have a poetic way of expressing yourself 🙂 My question: who is this man and what does he want from you?
Love this post, moonpluto. My Mars in is Cancer and I was contemplating in the shower the other day, exhausted as hell and wondering why I felt so tired. I thought “I’m taking care of two children, two fish, two reptiles, a garden, a house, a friend’s five year old son, a husband overseas, my education, myself, my brother, …….” I nurture a lot of things, and with my Cappy moon, I have high expectations of HOW I take care of those things. Exhausting, but I don’t think I’d feel like “myself” any other way. Talking about getting angry and outlets one day on the Elsa boards, I mentioned that when I get angry I immediately start sorting dirty laundry, folding clean laundry, vaccuming, unloading the dishwasher, cooking, etc. That shit comes so natural, without so much of a thought. 🙂
***Speaking of the 7th. My husband has sun and venus in the 7th (Aqu.), and my daughter has sun, moon, and venus in the 7th (Cap.). I haven’t seen much of a bossy tendency, YET. She has mars in Pisces in the 9th to soften that up a bit (for now…hehe).
this is such a good post that I’m afraid to comment, lol.
Don’t hold back Anita lol no worries here 🙂
I am strangely silent. Too many intermingled ideas, this brings up.
Love the humor.
I’ll be back:)
Me too! I’ll also be back. The day job awaits 🙂 Thanks for reading 🙂