Can a Cancer Sun find happiness with a Sagittarius Sun?
I’m an introvert. Needs solitude. Needs time and space to process feelings. Need acceptance of WHO I AM, especially these qualities. Can’t be around someone who wants to force me out of my shell on those “interior days” and gosh this sounds like a tampon commercial already doesn’t it but you know (I think) what I mean.
Can housewifey Cancer waterworks find happiness with Where’s the Party Sagittarius?
Well, first of all we must understand that charts and people are complex.
We must understand that it’s not just the SUN but the Moon and EVERYTHING ELSE and also how the charts interact with each other AND there are different types of relationship charts as well.
Sagittarius, a FIRE sign, is so expressive (a good thing) but it can overwhelm hiding Cancer.
Cancer can confuse Sagittarius because the love expression may be quiet/indirect and thus seem cold or aloof or not loving at all.
But wait, there’s more. Here’s one example: Sagittarius Sun trines Cancer’s fire Venus and understanding (and love) happens despite the differences.
Now I don’t want to talk about the technical side of this aspect/energy too much but more about how it feels: the keyword astrologers often use is “adjustment.”
Cancer and Sagittarius inconjunct i.e. NEEDS ADJUSTMENT.
Think of Gemini and Scorpio – another example. This is one of my fave examples.
Gemini is social and clever and witty and talkative and FUN and laughs easily and smiles and is rational and gives great advice and Scorpio is serious faced, brooding, intense but hiding the tender core, goes to extremes, deep thinking and feeling, and tells the painful truth and nothing but no matter who it hurts π
Imagine these two qualities in the same person. Pretty cool.
They aren’t opposites really but… facets.
If you have an inconjunct in your chart, you have to give time/room to both. See, my chart is not inconjunct heavy but filled with sextiles. I am quiet and shy (Cancer/Virgo) uniformly. I don’t struggle with feeding those needs. My struggle is to GET OUT OF MY SHELL. And there’s a lack of fire in my chart. I can RUT. Root and rut.
The inconjunct is like trying to fit one arm into two sleeves (is how I explained it to someone once).
So here I am with a Sagittarius in my life, FIRE that I need, even though it can be disconcerting — they are so damn… enthused.
It’s not bad BUT it is uncomfortable at times, although Cancers tend to be uncomfortable ANYWAY, wee little Crab people that we are π
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” and gosh this sounds like a tampon commercial already doesnβt it but you know (I think) what I mean.” LOL.
“Gemini is social and clever and witty and talkative and FUN and laughs easily and smiles and is rational and gives great advice and Scorpio is serious faced, brooding, intense but hiding the tender core, goes to extremes, deep thinking and feeling, and tells the painful truth and nothing but no matter who it hurts :)”
And this is a part of me! Although I worry about hurting people. Would an Aries Sun (and other planets) in the sixth house (Virgo), have a similar problem? I like the *idea* of organization, and love it when everything is clean and in its place, but I need help getting it there, and keeping it there. I’m hopeless.
Aliza…
I hear you, & you already know how I feel about my Cancer Hubby…I Heart him, we need and feed each other. π
I can really relate to what you said about being introverted. Im a Aqua sun, Libra rising & Scorpio moon. Im also lacking fire in my chart. I have lots of water. I really need to adjust to being around Aries, Sag or leos. Sometimes they can totally push me out of my comfort zone. I can feel totally overwhelmed & pushed by these signs. As much as I resist it & as hard as it is,,,I know that these people are put in my life to challenge me & light a fire under my ass lol. So yes, adjustment is a must for me with fire signs.
Thanks, Shannon π Thanks for your comments
Would you do an article sometime on yods since, as I know so well in my chart, you get 2 for the price of 1!
I love it when u post 3x a day!
lol! Thanks Liz. And you can thank Saturn going direct too π
I’m a scorpio sun & asc, with a gemini moon married to a Leo sun & asc with a virgo moon. We’ve been together 28 years but its been a constant battle. I have a limited tolerance for people and he feels we should accept every invitation we get. He loves crowds and enjoy socializing. I detest crowds and small talk. I expend most of my energy and tolerance for people at work. I prefer my home and my books. Obviously we’ve adjusted to the differences. We also learned to pick our battles. It’s not always easy but it can be done. Every anniversary we joke that we haven’t killed each other yet and I always add that the day isn’t over!
28 years π
I hear you on the adjustments as sometimes I think DEAR GOD did my Sag friends just say that stupid shit π ? But I do think Sag is a natural fit for Cancers with Virgo rising because most of us will have a Jupiter ruled 4th house. At home with Jupiter π
Very true π and yes on the “did he/she/they just say that stupid shit?” That’s when I flip out, have a tantrum, and the fun ensues!
Ummm… Aliza, I’m a leo/virgo, he is a geminis/cancer… somehow we compliment each other, the eternal lovers, sun (me) moon (him)… my moon is conjuct his venus in cancer, he can read me easily. His moon is in sag, matching my leo sun. Could it be in you guys case that you represent his 8th??.. passion, sex, getting him out of his comfort zone? And for you he is your daily dosage of love? Where is his moon? His venus? His Deyanira asteroid?