(This is not a re-post but I know I’ve written about this before.)
We all do friendship differently. I need space in mine and lots of it.
My Cancer stellium, Sun, Mercury, and Mars, is in the 11th house, which is associated with Aquarius, an air sign. Objects in the mirror are *not* as close as they appear.
You start treating me like your “wife” and I’m gone. Complaints, criticism, and I’m gone. I do my best. I’m not perfect. I do my best not to hurt. But I won’t always be there. I can’t be. It’s not ’til death do us part. It’s conditional. I lost my father and mother at a young age. Hell, I lost them years before they died. You think I can’t lose you too? I can.
Now relationships, romantic stuff, that’s way different. That’s where my intensity goes. And yet I know others for whom it’s reversed or it’s the same.
It’s not about duty or obligation or blood. I choose who I’m devoted to.
What’s happening in your 11th House? What’s the sign on your descendent? Find some clues there. Where do you need the most space?
xo
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6 thoughts on “How Do You Do Friendship? What’s In Your 11th House?”
Sort of reverse? I choose who I’m devoted to; my family and friends. Significant others are very similar to your 11th house. Don’t get too close, don’t hold on too tight, don’t make me uncomfortable or I’m gone. 🙂 11th in Scorpio with Neptune rx. Descendant in Cancer. Odd it works the same for us but I have a theory about public houses in Cancer. 😉
11th house Taurus with moon, chiron, mars and Sun. Moon opposite Neptune in Scorp. I’ll love you forever until I don’t.
I have 11th house in cancer and my moon in pisces square venus+neptun conj…i must admit that i invest a lot in my friendships ,but i have experienced not the same from my friends.Probably the square is full of delusions.
Oh yes those Neptune squares: causes confusion 🙁
Do you think some people just aren’t meant to partner with anyone long-term? Like, I always think I want a true partner but I find that when people try to pull me closer (especially if they don’t seem like sturdy people), I push against it. Idk much about aspects but Im starting to wonder if I’m really just meant to be a lone ranger forever. Im very watery so if it isn’t a deep connection I don’t put much of myself into maintaining it but I don’t really seek people out either.
It’s a tough question. Some people don’t want it. Some people want it and find it hard to find. I would prefer to focus on… if you (someone) wants it, how you can try to get it and what you’re “doing wrong” so to speak. Tendencies to be aware of. Overcoming fear and intimacy issues. This culture (where I live anyway) doesn’t really value solitude and spiritual experience and depth. It’s more about celebrities, diets, laughing when nothing is funny, and hooking up and fear of loneliness….