I am working with a client who is Pisces Rising and has a serious boyfriend with some Serious Virgo Energy and I was emailing her about how I thought his Virgo energy was working (or *not* working) in her life and probably driving her batshit crazy at times.
And I want to remind you that… we tend to draw in the people/qualities that we refuse to acknowledge in ourselves! How critical/fixy/fussy is she really?
And, by the way, I did feel that he probably was not aware of this quality in himself, and that a little awareness (and astrology) could do a lot of good. Virgos want to improve, right? So the solution is built-in!
Often… it’s not huge sound-the-trumpets breakthroughs that cause change. It’s these fine adjustments, nuances… AND THEN comes the cavalry.
See, they don’t have to end their relationship because of this thing he does. He needs to express the energy in a new way. And she needs to learn to be patient, not take it personally (none of this is easy but it is worth it). And they both need to understand it’s not a one-time fix but, yeah, process. VIRGO POWER!
What’s the sign and ruling planet on your descendent? Do you see those qualities in yourself?
Note to self: so… if I have Neptune ruling my descendent this means I need to drink WAY more
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I should have added that I’m a real comfort queen, too.
I, unfortunately, tend to attract men who exhibit a couple of my worst traits, but amplified, and with an adoration of alcohol and/or drugs. Ugh.
Taurus on the descendant, and I *love* Taurus Moons. They rate the highest in men that I’ve been attracted to (especially combined with a Leo Sun or Ascendant – usually the latter).
I like sexy, stable men, who aren’t too stodgy, are amusing and interesting. I don’t see my dad as sexy, but he’s a Taurus Sun/Moon conjunct my descendant, and he’s the best man I know. The Taurus I now loathe, also has his Sun/Moon conjunct my descendant. He went all skewith, but he used to make my knees weak when he talked about building from the ground up, working on goals, etc. and when he was warm and thoughtful.
I do see those qualities in myself, so much that I wondered if my birth time was slightly off, and I was a late Taurus Moon, instead of a 0* Gemini Moon. That Moon is conjunct Venus, though, so that might be it.
Resonating! I’m so excited this is a common-ish thing! Except I do this to myself instead of others. My 7th is in cancer & loaded, Venus conjunct desc, conj merc, conj Saturn but my sun is waaay on the other side of the 7th at 29 degrees. Lonely sun. 🙂 No aspects to personal planets. 1st house in cap is empty. Tumbleweeds. But asc has lots of aspects. I like fiery, lighthearted, charming guys until I decide they’re flaky, shallow & inconstant. I can’t blame anyone else for not acknowledging my lonely sun if I don’t. You had a kinder way of saying it but it relates to your latest post too because my empty 1st house IS a home & I’m too comfy there. Inundating you with comments! I don’t know what to do with myself when I have time off…not possible to exercise more xo
love your comments, Jen – no worries 🙂 If you are alone now, maybe there’s a way to frame your alone-ness that is more empowering. Your’re beautiful, strong, successful — you could have your pick (as they say) – if you choose. But you’re up to something else at this time. Thing is: what IS it? Give it a name…. a structure…
I’ve actually been thinking about this lately haha. Aquarius on the descendant, with Saturn in there. Lots of Uranus and quite a few strong Saturn aspects in my natal chart. I haven’t really entirely pinpointed yet where these qualities are in myself, how they manifest (a bit of denial I think). Aquarians can definitely rub me wrong sometimes. And my mom and brother and several more people I know are Aquarians. 😛 Anyway, the only relationship I was ever in (which was just an immature thingy) was with a Pisces S, Scorpio M, the opposite of my Scorpio S, Pisces M., and any guys I’ve liked have been water signs. But I’ve read descriptions of what my Aquairan descendant means, and its definitely what I would like in a guy.
Yeah, I really resonate with the concept that the Descendent shows the aspect of ourselves that we tend to project onto others – hence when we are attracted to other people of that type, we are actually attracted to the projection rather than (or in addition to, I suppose) the person. Of course, this may have been stronger for me since my Desc is Pisces! But since I’ve integrated my own Pisces better into my personality, I’ve realized that Piscean energy ISN’T actually what I’m attracted to!
I also have Venus in Virgo (along with my Asc, Mars, Mercury (conjunct Asc), and Saturn (conjunct Asc), plus Virgo ruling the 1st and 2nd houses – so I have waaay much Virgo. So the more Pisces I can express to balance that out, the better! (Although I am extremely appreciative of my Virgo with Neptune entering my 7th house for the next 12 years – I want clear sight in relationships, not projections and fantasy!)
Oh, and I think the best expression of Venus in Virgo is impeccability in relationships – always acting with integrity and doing the best one can.
I’m glad you found my blog actually – it’s FULL of Virgo Virgo Virgo! And also how to Piscesize some of that Virgo– I am writing about it a bit less lately–
aries on the DC and yes, i am too independent sometimes to be a very good partner. oh and the flashes of extreme temper, too
i have venus in virgo and it’s not so much that i want the perfect relationship——i just want someone to always t-r-y and make things better, that’s all
and if my partner was on a hunt to figure out and work with all my virgo—-well, i’d never let that person go
i attract those that give up at the first sign of even the simplest growing pain—–maybe that’s more aries DC??
thanks, mp
Extreme temper + Virgo = I shudder to wonder how your Mercury is aspected 😉
As for attracted those who give up… that’s a *very* interesting question and observation – one thought that came to mind is Cancer. Cancer of course can cling but they also will shut down
No, I’m an Aries, and I don’t give up that easily.
Aries and Mars. Hahaha. At 0′. Hahahahaha.
I always thought I was a nice peaceable sort .It was THEM who made me mad. When I started karate last year I suddenly became aware of that descendant (and my BML which aspects Mars)
I actually feel more complete now, if that makes sense.
wow – powerhouse!
I wish that I had tried martial arts as a kid, but I was afraid of hurting anyone. My whole life, I’ve been deathly afraid of hurting people – especially getting into a car and killing anyone.
Haha great post. I have Virgo intercepted in the 7th. My 3 most serious boyfriends were all virgos. The one I dated for 4 years had sun, moon, Venus and mercury all in Virgo. He wasn’t critical of me but was incredibly critical of himself. He needed a little more faith! Now I’m dating another Virgo and but his Venus is in Leo. So much more expressive, with many of the Virgo aspects I love. And his sun is 2 degrees from my descendant. It’s a much better balance for me, but I learned a lot from the last one about virgos and myself!
sounds good 🙂 you have passed the virgo challenge! 😉
I LOL’d! I have Venus in Virgo and sensed what the issue would be and my advice would have been to tell her to not always take the Venus in Virgo’s negative bouts personally! Venus in Virgo people want the “perfect” relationship, the ideal one in their heads. When that and reality doesn’t match it can be disappointing, even when the partner is awesome.
My descendant is in Scorpio. Jupiter sits right on it. Besides that one aspect, Jupiter makes no other ones. I really don’t see that energy in myself, and definitely look for it in partners. (They also do all have strong Pluto aspects or Scorpio planets.)