What is it you want to show me? What is it I need to learn from you? Why do you keep showing up in my life?
I’m thinking of one friend with this placement, one person that I used to sleep with, one person that I want to sleep with.
I have Venus in the 12th House and you’d think there would be an understanding. Scorpio trines Pisces but they seem worlds away to me right now. Hmm. Both potentially self-destructive but in different ways.
One of these folks has Venus in a water sign. The other two in air signs. And then of course there is the entire chart to consider BUT STILL it seems peculiar that I have them and I realize tonight that I must figure out why they are here, what I need to understand.
There’s an unbridled unabashed approach to sex that I see in my Venus in the 8th House people. From what I can grasp — no guilt, no shame. It’s a lusty placement. And they seem to be able to have impersonal sex (say, an orgy) as much as they can have the more typical 1:1 variety in a love-context.
I was on the phone today with one of my Venus in the 8th House people and telling him that I ALWAYS had one intention where sex was concerned. Always. Whereas he was saying that… each relationship he had had its own sexual story.
For me though? Single-minded. And I almost started to cry. Because I was remembering myself seeking and seeking and seeking and not finding, over and over, in my 20s and 30s.
For the moment I am guessing that it must be mutual… whatever it is between me and the 8th Housers. They have something for me. I have something for them. I have Chiron in the 8th House. I heal through sex. Heal others. Heal myself. But it’s more thorny than horny.
Chiron in the 8th: sex causes pain. Not physical pain (although that may be true for some) but a kind of psychic pain because the distance cannot be closed between you and the other person and penetration is the closest you’ll come, so to speak, to closing that distance. And thus the endless longing of this Venus in the 12th House person. And you want them to feel what you feel.
Maybe these 8th House people are showing up to tell me that YES the distance can be closed or YES the distance is an illusion or YES I love you anyway even though we aren’t the same or just… YES.
Who keeps showing up in your life?
xo
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15 thoughts on “Dear Venus In The 8th House…”
I’m Moon, Mercury, in Aries and Venus in Pisces in the 8th house. My Venus also trines Pluto in Scorpio in the 4th. Since it is exalted in Pisces and trining Pluto, I think that made me more on the faithful and positive side of the 8th house. I’m not one of those 8th house Venusians who sleep with everyone with no second thoughts. I’m young, but I’ve been in a long term relationship for 4 years and counting with the man who I first and only gave myself to. He’s mars in Scorpio so I am too satisfied to look for more. I once made the mistake of cheating on him online (not physically) because of emotional issues but we have patched it up. Now, I very carefully weigh my temptations and consider the consequences.
I have a friend with Venus in his 12th, in Leo, square his Pluto in Scorpio in the 2nd, and must I say that I absolutely hate his approach to love. It’s probably not a general Venus 12th thing, but I find him too confused and delirious. He loves to fool himself and has no staying power in his desires about other people. He is attracted to what he cannot have and does not know what he wants. I’d hate being in a relationship with a man like that. But maybe not all Venus 12th people are like that.
Well, for sure there’s a high side and low side… Venus 12 low side can be a person who is totally clueless, doesn’t know what they wants. Has an ideal and then tries to find a person to fit it…. square Pluto brings the power games in as well…
Hmmmm I gave a Taurus Venus in the 8th house – trine Pluto even. I have two takes on sex – I can have it in a very detached manner with the right person – meaning if it were someone that I don’t feel any intensity for and I would say that is probably almost everyone. But if I do meet someone and am blown away, I hold myself back and mostly because I know the intensity will scare me off if I don’t. Then the only thing I can do is take it one day at a time until I feel like I can trust that person to take that step with them. I definitely have the intensity that comes with the 8th house Venus – either they love me or run away fast! 🙂
Greetings Jenn!
Venus in the 12th but my mars is in the 8th (along with my moon and in a stellium, all in libra!), and I must say, I’m not attracting the right kind of people at the moment… and longing for the wrong ones. 12th house venus all over… 🙁
awww. those are some awesome placements though — but yeah i can see how the wrong ones would come in because you prob project some sexiness that others latch on to… but not in the way you want, right?
You know, I have no idea! I do have sun square neptune as well and I think people project on to me, I mean see what they want to see in me. Not to say that no one ever sees me for who I am or that everyone is off (!) but I can be a bait for people and their own fantasies.. Hmm. Must work on this! And with Venus in the 12th I think we find it a challenge to work out what we want in love, some of the time? Or why we want what we want and is it right..?
that venus 12 can have the unrequited love syndrome – being too timid or too intense to even “act normally” around the beloved! as soon as i like someone? tongue tied totally! that’s always how i was. But someone *like me* HAS to be open and friendly lol i’m no Libra 😉 not pretty enough to just sit there. Know what I mean? Some women can just “sit there” and that does the job. Not me! No offense to those women at all – we all have our package as the saying goes. I’m just saying that if I sit and wait for the cute guy or girl to come talk to me? I’ll be waiting forever.
Moon in the 8th in Pisces- I don’t attract enough pisces :(( :p
Hmmm maybe you are attracting some Neptune folks and don’t realize it ????
I attract Gemini’s with Sag moon’s or SAg’s with Gemini moon’s. It’s getting creeepy…& I don’t know why…I have no planet’s in either of those signs, but my North & south nodes are in those signs. South in Gemini….And I feel that energy…ughaghuaghagh.
Hmm…. “creepy” lol Well… if NN is in Sag and Sag’s are coming in, then that is good. They def have something to teach you!!!
I’m a bit scared to ask – what happens if you have Uranus in the 8th?
saw my ex today… was good until the very last min as we said our goodbyes… until i proved to him that what he said abt something was false… i thought i was clarifying but to him i was being a bitch…. idk i think mars rx in 9th is screwing with my perception. nothing big happened he just made a cut remark and so did i as i slammed the door…
5th & 8th both deal with sex right? Venus conjunct Chrion in 5th right now as Mars squares… so no sex was involved, tho we both wanted it, only cuz he’s injured & has been for a bit…
OY!!
oh Honey! Venus+Sat+Pluto in Scorpio in the 8th! 🙂