Are there people in your life who prefer it when you’re unhappy? Misery loves company so if you leave the company of misery, you break hearts.
What are your options when this happens? Cut the person out totally? Hope they’ll grow out of it? What has your experience showed you?
And I don’t mean people going through a hard time. I mean people who resent your success or your relationship or your spirit or your die trying attitude. Whatever.
More words from poet Jorie Graham: One has to believe furthermore in the voyage of others
I’m going to draw a few cards around this issue, ask the Tarot for the best guidance. What to do when the Sad Sacks are Harshing your Buzz.
The main advice I see here is to be skillful. Mere avoidance doesn’t work. You are changing. Your life is changing.
One solution? Surround yourself with new people for the stage you are at now. I see battle in these cards, struggle, and maybe it fits the astro weather today but let’s pull one more because we’ve already learned it must be dealt with. You can’t stay in a situation that no longer fits. So what then?
I am feeling the uphill battle for you. I am feeling the Pluto-like changes taking place. Sigh!
Okay okay one more card. Finally.
All beginnings are hard, my dear. Your future awaits. It’s behind those blue mountains over there. Keep going. You’re not wrong for moving on.
Love, MP
9 thoughts on “Dear MoonPluto: I Am Outgrowing My Friends…”
I have a friend I’ve known since elementary school who is pissed off that I have a boyfriend and won’t be her roommate.
Meant to comment on this last night, Aliza!! Perfect message for exactly what is going on in my life.
And how do I do it? Step by step. And see how it goes.
🙂
But first and foremost, I am taking care of myself.
Thank you, sweet Kim 🙂 Step by step is all we can do often. BUT THEN comes the BIG LEAP! 🙂
Another timely post – I was looking for a solution to this problem recently. It’s hardest with really old friends who haven’t really done anything wrong per se, but just they refuse to move with you as you transform and then it feels awkward, it doesn’t flow. They don’t encourage, worse – they discourage, and you’re left feeling insecure about the changes you are making and start doubting which impedes you…whereas with others they aid the expansion and say go-go-go! Which is lovely. Change takes courage. Outer planet transits don’t give you a choice, they just smash, or take, or break and you transform cos their is no option…can that be explained to the old friend who is so wrapped up in their own fear and hasn’t been thrown to their knees (yet!).
Yes! Change does take courage! Not everyone is on that path. Love your comment here. Very accurate (says my Virgo Moon)
But yes, I do know someone like that – or, I used to. He helped to get me where I am today. I was better off before he came into my life. He used to drag me down, and he still tries to, at times. He ruined more than one holiday for me, almost ruined my birthday last year, and contacted me a few days after my birthday this year – I had been feeling good, and reading his condescending correspondence brought me down, and then out swinging. He messed with my head and my heart, and just… there are no words, really.
Anyone who prefers that you be miserable, and sabotages you (or attempts to), needs to go.
Misery doesn’t love company, in this case. What I don’t appreciate, is someone looking down their nose at me, and calling me a sad-sack, saying that I’m attention-seeking, and comfortable with my misery, that I’m not trying, etc. I’m not directing this at you: I’ve encountered that attitude several times, and it puts my back up. I’ve defended several people, as well.
…. Sad sacks harshing your buzz… Love it!
BTW: life savers need all the help they can get so they can keep saving lives.
And you are god-sent.
Thanks 🙂
awww that was sweet 🙂 this blog has definitely attracted some awesome peeps 🙂