I was visiting my Cancer Sun-Aries Moon friend this afternoon. Ex-boyfriend, actually, who has been campaigning for my return.
Everyone I spend time with these days is a study in astrology for me . How Cancer is he really? How does the Aries manifest? He also has Mars in Aries. No birth time for him but a couple years ago he gave me one. I think he made it up. Or that his mother said “mid-afternoon” so I was working with a 2:30pm-ish birth time and I think it fits. Gives him Scorpio Rising and he is a control freak. Gives him Moon and Mars in the 6th House. And he is a control freak 😉
And speaking of control, the older I get the more freedom I want. There was a time, not that long ago, when… how to put it. Let me put it this way. It’s interesting. To me. That I feel that I’ve changed in a short-ish amount of time and that he hasn’t. He has the same dream, the same ideal. He’s still looking for that one to fill the glass slipper. He is willing to modify the dream but only so much. I’m not the girl he used to know. I’m not the girl from 5 years ago.
Mars enters Libra this week, same day as the Full Moon in Capricorn (conjunct Pluto). Feels like fireworks to me which figures because the next day is Independence Day here at home.
And I have this sneaky feeling that Mars in Libra is going to add fuel to the bonfire of your Saturn in Libra issues. Growing up in relationship. Figuring out what you truly want. Defining your terms. Setting limits. Integrity. Not lying to yourself or anyone else.
Independence. What does that word mean to you?
When I think Libra, I think “compromise,” and “seeing the other side,” and “harmony” and “peace at any price,” and other famous phrases and words but… independence isn’t one of them.
With Mars in Libra, your focus moves away from the Virgoan need for order and towards… somebody else.
Remember this though: Mars is war and Libra is “nice.” Extreme attempts at peacemaking this month could make you ill as Mars squares Cancer, opposes Aries, squares Capricorn…
From who or what will you seek your freedom ?
Love, MP
11 thoughts on “The Stars This Week: Independence Day”
Its possible that what we percieve as head games could be poor communication skills. I for one certainly dont want to jump head first into a relationship with someone a I barely know. maybe back in the day. But these days we need to be careful. So our feelings can be tricky wanting gratification yet fear of the unknown. And getting stuck in another relationship thats gone awry is the worst scenario.
skyler,
i feel like i am in some ways only beginning to learn, at 50. and one of my lessons – since YOU’VE stood up – is to stop with the head games.
thank you.
One thing I am not is manipulative. Its BAD karma and didnt want it to fall back on my children. I feel karma goes where it will hurt you the most.
OK, in my younger days I may have showed up in traffic court in a tight sweater hoping it helps, lol
Great point Bob, at 60 I still have alot to learn. My Venus Aries and Gem asc keeps me a lil childish buuut I I do NOT like head games. They tend to dampen my spark thats ever sooo raging at 1st meeting. If this behavior continues I turn my back and skip away. Perhaps my 12th house planets assist me w/ being content w/ my aloneness. I’m sad to admit my taurean planets cause me to be judgemental. ooops 🙂
“I think my blog posts have an illusion of a tell-all but they really are a tell-not!”
and it’s always the between-the-lines, the how what IS said “camouflages” the what is NOT said that tends to get my attention.
reminds me of jodie foster’s interviews and how they seem (to me) to be almost studied in the sense that she does all this talking, and is so eloquent and charming and intelligent and engaging, and there’s this sense that she’s sharing, and then you sit back and you realize she’s not revealed an iota of ANYthing “personal,” and you know it’s no accident at all and you’ve got three pages or thirty minutes of Gotcha. it’s beautiful.
the waving the shiny object UP HERE SO EVERYONE CAN SEE IT while at the same time there’s the other hand under the table manipulating the control button. i find it fascinating.
and yes, the former and i have crazy karmic synastry. heavy stuff. you’d look at the planets and think WHAT? NO WAY. and then you see all the mutual and exact node-to-axis and the picture becomes clearer, and it’s a complex picture. it wasn’t until i became aware of those contacts that It all made sense.
life-changing. as scripted.
From what I remember, Jodie is a Scorpio. See, with a Cancer (me) there’s less manipulation (dare I say that?). It’s not like I’m planning and plotting 🙂 I’m just not telling the whole story. My ex-boyfriend doesn’t read my blog and wouldn’t suspect that I’d be writing about him.
Cancer is balls-out protective. There’s someone else that I’m “protecting” i.e. not telling the whole story about. And I don’t mean ME (although I am protecting myself too).
“Life-changing, as scripted.” 🙂
Jodie is 11/19, yes? Remember b/c It was the date my Mother’s passed away.
ms. skyler rosey,
fwiw, i have found growth to be genderless, in that both men and women (or boys and girls, since you allude to yourself as “girl”) are prone to both stagnation AND evolution. to invest in believing otherwise is to do yourself and men/boys a disservice. that’s all.
aliza,
my “former” (“ex” bothers me for some reason) is an aries mars, but an aries sun as well so when the bullets (or carrots) flew i could see them coming; and after awhile the “oh, so that’s mars in aries” becomes clearer, thus easier to understand/deal with. (in a way, it’s refreshing, so “here it is” and in your face.) but that cancer addition, hmm, that could get tricky. my mother’s a cancer sun/mercury but mars in leo and her anger was/is always pretty passive/aggressive, not at all straighforward. having said that, i tend to admire folks – couples – who can maintain relations when “it” is over. (or maybe it’s not? i may be projecting but that you include the campaigning makes me wonder if part of you isn’t perhaps leaving a crack open. not seeking a reply there. but i digress from your post. sort of.)
Independence does seem to get trickier – more important – as we get older and more aware of what we can and can’t (will and will not) abide. the stakes rise. our time is less and thus more valuable. we bet quicker to “fish or cut bait” scenarios.
as a venus/mercury libra i have, yes, become more aware of my tendency to “compromise” when, in retrospect, the truer response might’ve been NO, that is NOT me and does NOT work. but that gets back to growing older, maybe, and finally getting tired of compromise that in the end does nobody any good.
i am seeking freedom from my tendency to try to hold on to what is gone or changing form and finding my independence in that strength that comes from hard growth seasons passing, making me wiser, and better able to share in a healthier, more truthful way.
I have to reply, just a wee bit 🙂
The synastry between him and me is a little spooky. His Pluto is conjunct my South Node (a feeling of drowning). My Moon Pluto is in a vise (a tsquare) from his chart. I have Moon Pluto conjunct in Virgo and it is squared by his Venus in Gemini and his Saturn in Sagittarius. I’m not really looking for discipline at this point in my life.
Another issue I don’t feel anger (for example) from my Mars in Aries buddy. In fact (interestingly enough) a tarot reader once told me that he didn’t get as Mars in Aries-ish with me as he usually did with others. Maybe b/cause our Suns our conjunct (part of the reason why perhaps). He does seek control though. So yeah, tricky. That’s a good word for it.
I had to include the campaign in the blog post. It’s part of the story 🙂 Anything is possible I suppose! And the rest of the details I leave out 🙂 Because there are MORE details and I AM leaving them out. I think my blog posts have an illusion of a tell-all but they really are a tell-not! 🙂
I don’t have personal planets in Libra (or in the 7th) but I know what you mean. Someone was telling me last night in fact, how I am so often considering the mens’ needs but ignoring my own. I do have Jupiter in Libra and a Christ-on-the-cross Venus.
Love your writing, Bob. Fun to read!
I’ve been thinking of mars in libra as a good time to “liberate” something, like my sense of humor 😉 which seems to be confined these days. I’m not gonna go nuts like mars in Aries (or Leo) and bite off more than I can chew, I’m picturing something more akin to early release for good behavior which won’t offend libran sensibilities or saturn, squatting on my MC, or overtax mars. Or maybe I’m just resting up for Scorpio :). One of my sisters was born on the 4th of July. Cancer sun, Pisces moon, Virgo asc. She has mars/moon conjunct the descendant but moon is in the 6th and mars in 7th. She also has Saturn/Uranus/Neptune conjunct in the 4th & Pluto in Scorpio in the 2nd…ouch, a little bit. Thinking about other charts makes me happier with mine xo
‘I’m not the girl he used to know. I’m not the girl from 5 years ago’ Agree! Women grow men stay as they are. Which is why whenever we run into an ex we praise the lord he’s not ours.
I seek freedom from all those who think I’m the same girl from 20, 10 and 5 years ago. Uggh I am soooo done! I LOVE my independence if only they’d stay out of my business!!
Love this post and your new website too!