Sometimes I think Synastry is irrelevant.
Synastry to put it simply is comparing two (or more!) birth charts. And the idea that you can have great synastry with someone and the relationship can still fail. I hate that.
But I understand why we look and why we need to understand and also the compulsion to look for past-life connection!
Sometimes you get along with someone and if the synastry on the surface doesn’t look so great, it forces you to look deeper. I mean, it isn’t just Mars Venus trines or Sun Moon conjunctions that stir the heart or um other parts.
In my recent past, I was romantically attached to a certain gentleman and our synastry included a massive Cancer pile-up on his Ascendent (I have Sun, Mercury, and Mars in the sign) and we also had squares and other friction. The math was good. Good charts are not enough though. Good people need to be similarly motivated.
Some astrologers believe that ANY contact between planets in two charts IS a good thing i.e. they are talking to each other, involved with each other, even tensely. I’m not sure if I agree. And I’m not saying that I won’t do synastry charts. I can and I do and I like it but I think the more important questions are:
Do you want what he/she wants?
Are you willing to get it? How/when/where? Is the timeframe the same for each of you?
I’m also a firm believer in strong mutual attraction/chemistry which is not about the surface appearance. Of course there is more to this topic, but this will get us started 🙂
Question for you: have you had or do you have a long-lasting relationship with someone whose chart does *not* complement yours in the “obvious” ways?
Tell us in the comments!
xo
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Yes I am doing Mini-Moon Readings for the upcoming Eclipses as well as my usual longer Readings.
8 thoughts on “Synastry: Does It Matter?”
I hate synastry charts because you can have all these nice conjunctions or whatever and the relationship still goes to hell, also it contradicts itself so much sometimes it’s half squares, half conjunctions and you still have no clear view whether you get along with someone or not, all astrology is bullshit and never a secure method at looking for a relationship diagnosis
Hm. Yes. My previous one. The give away was his venus and moon in cancer. My venus is in aries and moon in aquarius. He wants a homecooked pie, which I can do as a taurus (I love cooking), but deep down inside, I’m a risky marginalized dare devil. He loves family and everything about his family (annoying brother btw) even with their obvious faults (won’t correct them) — and I can’t stand family — at least tribal nitpicky ones, so I stand outside a lot of many tribes, even cliques of friends — which is why I am an orphan, divorced from my parents, and intimidatingly independent.
Why I thought it would work was his sun in leo aspecting my aries planets. His moon in the 10th house, giving him an earthly energy to compliment my Taurus sun. My moon in the watery 12th to compliment all of his cancers. And well, our ascendant conjunct each other’s descendant.
But deep down, we do not want the same thing. I cannot go on tour with him as he develops his music. And he does not want to be in New York with me as I finish school, because the city is too Saturnian for him. We’ve met in our past lives, and this life is satisfactory.
Thanks for sharing that, M. Very interesting to me!
Nevah. All my long term romances have the synastry/composite clout. But I have found that luke warm synastry can mysteriously result in a red hot composite.
:::waves::: to the awesome Nadia 🙂 thanks for weighing in!
Oh and you were asking about timing. I have heard that if someone is having a Saturn transit, it’s not the best time to get involved with someone. Let it pass and then see, if they are still willing to wait for you.
I have to say no. Even with my ex, after not knowing anything about our charts and synastry, it’s all there. The good, the bad AND the ugly. But the good is really good! And how long is long Aliza? Some relationships last a few months or years, but can be really intense. I agree re the chemistry. Wish we could see that more obviously in a chart. But it is the missing human element in a chart.
You know what? I’m thinking years. For my purposes here (this blog post) a year or years — and talking about “in person” — so many internet relationships happen and people meet or not… Not that internet isn’t REAL but it is limited. But I have an earthy chart. I need a body beside me.