Giving someone a share of your burden is a mental thing.
And I don’t mean “crazy” mental thing.
I do mean… it’s something you think about, when you’re in relationship (with lovers OR friends) that you… don’t have to hold on so damn tightly (Four of Pentacles) to whatever you have.
Let some of your strength go.
Does that make sense to you? It’s about balancing (hello Mars in LIBRA!).
It also reminds me of the Ten of Wands card and upon seeing this card many readers will remark on the burden you are carrying and guide you to put some of it down. How many wands? How many down? Is it your burden? And so on 🙂
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So I woke up this morning (a day off, a beautiful, rare much needed day off from psychic surgery) feeling sick. Actually last night we realized I had a low fever. So frustrating. I love cool weather but I keep getting run down. Plan to take it even easier today.
But I got up to feed the cats and have some decaf (my favorite thing) and started thinking about relationships and marriage and how sharing burdens (activating share-the-burden mind) is more a state of mind than a divvying up of activity. You have to realize what you’re doing.
It made me wonder what you think? How much of the burden are you carrying and how much of the burden do you want to let go or can you let go and how alone are you even in your most intimate relationships. And maybe you would prefer to be alone. Or maybe you have no clue how to get close. And the days pass.
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It never fails to amaze me. This fear of getting close. It’s different for all of us 🙂 When I hear from clients or friends who can spend 20 years in a “relationship” and never let their partner see the ugly. See, I can’t help but show it! It comes out! And it’s AWESOME (lol).
Intimacy is a trigger for me (Chiron in the 8th House) and I have more holy unholy righteous anger than a full-time television pastor. My husband, bless his heart, has Mars in Capricorn. He’s got strategy, tactics. Plans are always in the making.
And I said to him: I have NO tactics. NONE. I have Mars in Cancer (and a side note about Mars in Cancer — thought to be an unlucky placement for Mars — a well aspected or powerfully aspected Mars in Cancer can be quite direct and forceful). No tactics. Just a powerful stream of I FEEL. Which, for Cancer, equals I KNOW. But tactics for Mars in Cancer are necessary. Tactics around… not drying up the emotional waters but taking good care of the levee. And learning how to share the burden. Venus in Capricorn lessons. Mars in Libra lessons. Life lessons! AND TO STOP BEING SO GODDAMN TIGHT WITH WHAT YOU HAVE – WITH YOUR LOVE, WITH YOUR STRENGTH, WITH YOUR WEAKNESS.
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The Sun is now in Aquarius. We have shifted from strategic, tactical, long range plan Capricorn to “offbeat” Aquarius.
Aquarians out there, how do you feel about being considered offbeat? Strange? Brilliant? Light and radiant? Cold? Detached? Revolutionary? Idealist? Robotic? The scientist who complains you are not being functional and efficient enough. Yes, I do believe Virgo and Aquarius have much in common 😉
I admit I have a fondness for Aquarius — I have three personal planets in the 11th House and my mother always said about me: “she’ll do what she wants anyway.” I think for myself. Not a people pleaser or a trend follower and I’ll think for you too if you ask, ha!
So that’s the story 🙂 Happy Monday!
Love, MP
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10 thoughts on “Sharing The Burden: More Thoughts About Mars In Libra 2014”
“Aquarians out there, how do you feel about being considered offbeat?”
What’s a “feeling”?
Aliza: Thank you again, and I love the way you put that: not supplying emotionally constipated people with your treasure chest of awesome.
The words I gave myself for this aren’t as elegant as yours, but they’re kinda cute: I’m not lifting my emotional skirt for free.
🙂
xoxo, and thank you for all the astro and life-in-general goodness you so generously provide!
I have late Libra sun (21 degrees) in 8th house. Venus retrograde in Capricorn dueling with Mars in Libra in the 8th is helping me unwind the unhealthy relationship I perceive myself having with money, debts and investments – and my being imprisoned by my perception of this relationship (Venus is in my 12th). Since November I have been taking my power back – in my head at least, and telling myself that I am worthy – regardless of past mistakes. I am being more realistic about my business goals, but that realism is supportive not restrictive – as I meet those realty founded goals, it only reinforces that perception that I’m heading in the right (not fantasy) direction. Its been a VERY interesting journey. Having Saturn conjunct my Neptune has helped too – because my dreams have been teaching me a lot – about courage and fear and self doubt and criticism. I think these themes are really Venus/Capricorn/12th stuff so its been very healing I think.
Your Mars in Cancer words of wisdom are always so inspiring for me! Just realised how ‘tight’ I am being with my love and my weaknesses. To admit to feeling love is almost like admitting to a weakness and is so terrifying. Can I really let someone see beneath the shell?? But I guess never being honest about my true feelings is even scarier in the long run. Will try to take your advice. Thanks for another great post 🙂
Aliza, once again–thank you! For most of my life, I’ve felt (ha!) despair over my “badly placed” Mars in Cancer and have considered it to be a huge disadvantage. It was hard to get to the place where I could even start a sentence with “I feel,” and trust the feelings that accompanied those words, much less trust someone else (especially men) with them. For a long time, I defaulted to “I think” because it seemed so much more abstract. Safer.
But this, that you wrote: “No tactics. Just a powerful stream of I FEEL. Which, for Cancer, equals I KNOW.”
Wow! It’s just been in the last couple of years that I’ve learned to stop being so afraid that the stream might overwhelm someone (or me). I’m still not totally comfortable with letting it rip, but I’ve gotten a *lot* better–interestingly, much more so since the advent of 2014.
Thanks for the reinforcement, you rock. 🙂
xo,
V
Miss Victoria — in my humble opinion, MOST PEOPLE can’t deal with. Can’t deal with their own feelings or the feelings of others. THEY ARE AFRAID. Because the whole thing would come tumbling down and the fragile self they put together will be…. mashed on the ground.
But I am an emotional warrior yes 🙂 and I have no time or patience or energy to supply emotionally constipated people with my treasure chest of awesome. Unless they GIVE BACK in kind — give back THEIR support, their emotions, their treasure. xxx
I really appreciate your thoughts on Mars in Libra (and Cancer, natally-I have it too in the 8th house w/ late Scorpio rising…I enjoy your writing style…
I’m on a similar path I think..do you have Moon/Pluto conjunct? Those 2 are opposed in my chart..wishing you all the Best! Might get in touch soon for a different perspective!
Thank you, Mary! And thank you for the tip 🙂 I appreciate it! Yes, Moon Pluto conjunction in Virgo, in my first house, well aspected all around the chart xo
“You have to realize what you’re doing.” OHMYGADYES.
Mars in Libra is highlighting how utterly sick and tired I am of…many things. I try not to waste my time wishing other people would WAKE UP generally speaking but I am finding with this transit I want to run around shaking all kinds of people. Lucky them! LOL.
Wishing other people would change is REALLY exhausting (for me). So I choose another way.