This pairing is supposed to be one for the record books, but I have my doubts. Why?
Reason One: Scorpio so close to Libra and Sagittarius on the wheel often guarantees a sidedish of these two signs which tend to annoy Cancer, especially Libra.
Reason Two: Scorpio and Cancer compete for who is the most deep-dark and intense. This becomes tiresome as Scorpio can have no other gods before it.
Reason Three: The sex is soooo good that all relationship tsurris gets ignored and the thing implodes. Subtext: Cancer loves Scorpio focus but does not love Scorpio secrets. Mother knows best!
Reason Four: Scorpio really wants a Pisces girl.
Reason Five: Cancer so close to Leo does not guarantee but maybe brings a fixed square. Ew. Leo needs mega-attention and Scorpio doesn’t dig that drama.
Reason Six: Your turn! Scorpio and Cancer: yay or nay?
Note to self: ya never know…
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Wow. I’m sitting here in tears because your interpretations were SPOT ON. I am a cancer (female) and I have had a love/hate relationship with a Scorpio (male) on and off for half of my life. We met when we were in high school & never had an official relationship, but there was something there. Even then, he was hot & cold. He used to play guitar and sing to me (always Glycerine by Bush) & he was not doing that for any other girl. Other times, it was like I didn’t exist. We nearly hooked up one night but we got interrupted & the moment was lost.
For various reasons, we lost touch, but I always had him in the back of my mind & tons of things easily reminded me of him & I often wondered if he ever thought of me. But I did move on and was engaged when a friend of mine graduated college & threw a big party. She had grown up with him & I anticipated him being there. But I expected nothing since it had been 7 years since I had seen him, I was engaged and he had a girlfriend and a child at the time.
He was always so handsome and I expected his girlfriend to be gorgeous. But when they walked in, I was less than impressed and I swear, I’m not just being a bit*h. Anyways, I wasn’t sure he’d remember me, care that I was there, say hi, so I was very nervous, but I made sure I was all dolled up that night. He walked in & my heart went insane, pounding rapidly. He made his way over & immediately greeted me with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. We chatted for a while and that was that. So I thought.
A few weeks later, we became friends on Myspace and Facebook. During one conversation, he bluntly asked me “do you still love me?” I told him I wasn’t sure I should respond, what if this was his girlfriend & not him. He told me that if it was her, we’d already be in trouble and then he mentioned something about the last night we had been together & I knew from what he said a) it was him and b) he had thought about me over the years….& he used the word love….
Now this is wrong & I’ll probably get a lot of flak for it, but I am only human, and I’m being honest. We started an affair that has gone on for 5 years. I don’t want to leave my husband, who I love, but I don’t want to lose my Scorpio either. Until recently, my Scorpio was in a relationship, as noted above. She is …gasp…a Pisces. He and I have deep conversations, everything from our relationship issues to religion, death (both of us lost parents), music, life in general, etc. He tells me that he loves her so much. One time we got caught by her via emails. She hacked into his account and saw my emails. He told me he loved her too much to risk it anymore. But he couldn’t stay away (even though we got into a huge fight about something else & I thought he hated me) and two weeks later, he was messaging me again. That was almost two years ago. Within the last few months, she kicked him out. He said she couldn’t get over the fact that he had cheated with me. She brought me up every day. He cried to me, telling me this, and how he cares about me as a friend & respects me so much, but he loves her & is devastated.
Now, while he says he is honest with me and has told me repeatedly that he is not in love with me, he sends so many mixed signals. I shouldn’t want him to love me because he can’t have me anyways, I’m married & would never leave my husband. But I have this almost desperate, almost obsessive need to know his true feelings, to know if he has suffered as I have, with guilt and with longing. People say with a Scorpio, it’s either love or hate, no in between. And you’d think after 15 years, I’d know him well enough to know intuitively. But I never know where I stand because of his cold periods.
Some things that confuse me include :
Hot:
The night we almost hooked up back in the day, he admitted he came to lose his virginity to me
We web chat online for HOURS. At least 2-3 hours every time, but a few times, we chatted for 6 hours or more. We would take turns playing songs, we’d make each other laugh, once he made breakfast & took the laptop into the kitchen so I could watch him make breakfast for his kids. He also made eggs in a nest because I mentioned it.
He says the sweetest things to me …always tells me how pretty I look, even with no makeup, in PJs, bedhead lol
He has played songs for me & cryptically let me know it was about me…for example, I played Adele’s Someone Like You and said it was my song for him. He played Eliot Yamin’s “Wait for You” right afterwards and said “I used to really like this girl, but she never gave me a chance. This is my song for her.” I asked who it was for and he said “Doesn’t matter, I’m not waiting anymore.” And then another time I asked he said “If you are always guessing, you’ll never know.” When I asked him specifically what his song for me was, he played “Love Like This” By Natasha Beddingfield. It talks about “life tried to keep us apart, you keep calling me back to your heart” and “still remember my middle school kiss.”
I have been to his house (before she kicked him out) and he introduced me to his kids
I had written him an email telling him I was done, I couldn’t do it anymore, that I loved my husband and why should I do this if he didn’t even love me. That why does he do this to her when he says he loves her so much & doesn’t love me. That I was tired of feeling like his who*e. He took several weeks to write me back, but when he did, he said that I would “always be more” but he loves his kids & can’t give me more. He said he was gonna give me a reason to never write that bullsh*t again.
Once, he played 3 songs for me and told me they were his funeral songs & he wanted at least someone to know (except his now ex (but mother of his children) hates my guts & would never let me have any input on his funeral, so why would he want me to know??) BTW, one of the songs was Yesterday by Boys II Men (I know the original is Beatles, but that’s the one he liked). That song is nothing to do with death or funerals, it’s about a woman leaving & him not knowing why. Again, I think it’s about me & how I walked out of his life (he knew how to get ahold of me, but I stopped going around thinking he didn’t like me anymore or whatever an insecure teen girl thinks).
He told me he had always liked me but hadn’t made a move for so long because I made him nervous
When we meet up to hook up, it’s not like we just screw and leave. We chill for 2-3 hours. We talk, listen to music, etc.
Sex is amazing with him & he not only says but I can tell he LOVES how I put it on him
He’s almost like obsessed with me sexually in a way, he’s asked me to send him sexy pics daily, he loves my tatas & has a million pics of them but constantly wants more. & of course, there’s more. He’s told me she’s pretty frigid.
Not only that but he’s told me lots of negative things about her. He says she won’t cook or clean, she is a bitch to him, etc. I have friends that know her very well & they confirm these things. Also she’s a pill head! So I’m so confused with his supreme love for her.
The Cold:
Sometimes, it’s weeks and weeks til I hear from him (when he was still at home, I understood but now he’s single and lives elsewhere and for a while, hit me up a lot, then was ghost for a few weeks, then again hit me up a lot, then now, it’s ghost time again). These ghost times seems to correspond with times when he seems to be getting emotionally close with me. It’s like he lets himself go so far, then he pulls back to cool off or something. And he basically told me in a conversation once that he won’t let anyone in, that she ruined him, the sweet boy I knew & loved died when he met her, and he doesn’t think he’ll ever be with anyone ever again.
Sometimes, when he’s online ,I’ll say “hi” and he doesn’t respond, or he logs out
He is very deep & always thinking. But he keeps a lot of that hidden & locked up behind an icy wall. Though he has shared a lot more with me than I think he has with others (his own male cousin told me how he is very reserved even with his own family), he has wells of mystery I’ve yet to explore. He himself has told me I know him better than others. And I know things that he has not told anyone else, nor would ever. Dark things & he trusts me implicitly. But still, he keeps a lot from me. There’s so much of his life I wonder about & don’t get to know. But mostly what drives me nuts is the times when I don’t hear from him. When I ask, he says he was busy working or he was emotionally fuc*ed up and needed time alone. Anyways, this has turned into a novel. But basically, I agree with everything this post has said!! (Except the part about he really wants a pisces…he had one & lost her & knew messing with me would cause it but still did it. And I think he’s confused about losing her, loving her, but having feelings for me too, but not wanting to be vulnerable because he can’t truly have me, but I don’t know, this guy confuses the heck out of me).
Sometimes I just want to run away & leave him in the past. I did stay away from him for two years, but saw him randomly one day & couldn’t get him out of my mind & it started all over.
Also, this post was eerily creepy for other reasons: I had a relationship with a Libra that was horrendous, so any Libra tendencies in my Scorpio probably are putting me off
I definitely need a lot of attention & he needs a lot of space. I get insecure when I don’t hear from him for a while & always feel like I’m losing him yet again. That’s why sometime I feel like I should be done for good then I have nothing to fear. I think he goes through the same feelings because of how he pulls away sometimes. Also he’s said things that make me believe that. Also I think he’s jealous of my husband. One time I had to leave quicker than expected to get my husband from work and he whispered in my ear “fu*k him, stay with me.” He knows I won’t leave & maybe that’s why he won’t allow himself to love me or won’t tell me he does. I don’t know. So confused…
Thanks for your thoughts, HD xo
I was in a relationship with a Cancer man for 5 years. I was young (19) and he was 5 years older. Looking back I can see that I learned a lot but the whole thing was toxic from the beginning. I was blinded by love (or something) and he was manipulative and controlling. Every time I would try to leave, he would sweet talk me back in. Then I found out he was cheating and I was devastated. I still couldn’t cut those ties. Finally, he said he couldn’t bear to hurt me anymore and broke it off. It was the best thing that could have happened to me. He tried to get me back a couple of times but I was much stronger and refused. I haven’t dated a cancer since.
I hate hearing about my own sign “being bad” but oh I know it happens 🙁 Def the LOW side of Cancer (cheating and manipulation). I’m sorry Scorpiotina.
I hope folks don’t mind my tongue-in-cheek posts like this. There’s always a grain of truth…. I can also see how it *could* work between the two signs absolutely but yeah there is a shadow side to this match *and* to Cancer!
I just imagined pairing a Scorpio and Cancer from my office. I think they would kill each other. Kind of like a female praying mantis killing the male post coitus.