Cancer can be soft. Capricorn can be hard. And vice versa. Combine and balance these two *opposites* and you’ve got the ultimate Inner Parent: nurturing + discipline = reliable support. For example, letting your kid learn to walk without worrying they’ll fall because you know they will. At first.
I’ve got a friend who was coming out of a real hard time and deep depression and the other day was in a car wreck (she’s okay but may need surgery). My friend is also an addict and now she’s got this bottle of pain pills so now what.
And my friend lives across the country from me so I can’t go over there to cook or clean or take her to the doctor or change her bandage. She doesn’t have family nearby and I worry.
Love versus Pity: I will give her whatever love I have and can, from this distance, but I will not indulge her self-pity, which she may have every right to feel, because I think it won’t help. At all. She’s got Cancer planets (and so do I!) and Cancer can easily wallow and get stuck in the mud and not clean themselves off FOR YEARS.
So this is my *ideal* and like with all ideals, I will come up short but when friends are in trouble you got to support like Saturn and love like Cancer and you help them most by allowing them to take responsibility for their getting back up (emotionally or physically) and as a Virgo Moon this is a stretch for me. I want to fix it ALL now.
I also fear turning into my Bubby (Yiddish for grandmother), but that’s another story.
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6 thoughts on “Love, Pity, And The Cancer-Capricorn Axis”
hey, mp! (or do you prefer aliza?)
i have this axis with my MC (cancer) and IC——i am a total hardass at home—–structure, structure and more sturcture
the last guy i dated was cap rising and i honestly never got my head around his cancer DC. did he want a mom or what?
thanks for the series!—-love’em
You know what? I like whatever name people come up with for me – 🙂 mp is fine– I actually to see what people do come up with. It’s creative.
Thank you–
Interesting. I have Sag on my 4th – need my freedom there 🙂
And yeah he prob wanted some momma type somethin-somethin from you — or he projected his nurturing self onto you. Maybe hard for you to access since ur MC is cancer which is all business! (mc)
I struggle with this a LOT. I have people all around me who are mired in the mud.
I’m constantly reminding myself that if I could dig myself out of all the crap I did, and survive it, they can too. And I remember that we are much more powerful beings that we think we are.
So, when I can do nothing else, I hold a vision of them strong, well, capable, getting a job, whatever it is they need to do.
And I give them a pep talk. Even tho they aren’t here.
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And how cool I have snow floating across my post! I get snow too!
Haha I was waiting for a birthday post! Thank you for posting on this lovely boxing day 🙂 I have the same theory of helping, supportive while loving, although I’m not sure the loving always show through because of my mass amount of Capricorn. But it’s there! My first astrology reading was with an amazing astrologer who was also a Capricorn with noon in Aries. I loved the way he explained the Capricorn/cancer axis. Cancer is the sensitive awareness while Capricorn is the objective awareness, but we are just as sensitive as our cancer counterparts even though we seem hard or cold. Thank you so much for posting! Especially a Capricorn related post 🙂
Oops I meant moon in Aries!
You’re so welcome. I have no Cap planets but I do have Saturn trine my Moon… and 3 planets in Cancer… and growing-up (the Cancer challenge) has been a theme in my life
xoxo