Having a real (Saturn) functional relationship is probably the most difficult and yet the most worthwhile thing I’ve ever done.
And I pause for a moment. More difficult than bedbugs? More difficult than my mother dying? Stripping away the layers. Defenses. Shell molting?
Thinking about the chart, in general: 5th House is the early stages of love. 7th House is the marriage, commitment. 8th House is INTIMACY. Between the 5th and 7th is what? 6th House i.e. WORK. It takes WORK.
My first astrologer pointed this out to me once. Told me it wouldn’t be easy. I had my first reading with her when I was in my 20s and looked her up when I was in my 30s and we had this AMAZING reading. She taped it. And then the tape got lost in the mail.
See, those of us with Eastern charts (everything on the left hand side) we NEED you people with your busy 6th, 7th, 8th Houses to teach us how to RELATE and see the other side. And it’s not that I fake it but that… there’s a difference between desire and longing for something and… actually being able to, yes, make it work.
I have an 8th House Chiron: intimacy REAL intimacy (for some of us) is the most difficult thing in the world but imagine this: if Chiron’s wounds could stop crying, if you could get close to just one person, your world would start to open up.
Defenses down, Crab People. We are all Crab People during Cancer Season. Hiding in our shells, emotionally intense. The key to getting through these days is REASSURANCE.
My boyfriend has Moon in Cancer and I have Moon in Virgo. Sure he can interpret my fixation on his eating habits as love but what a Cancer Moon needs most… must come from the heart, not from the mind.
So I salute all of you who are working on this, who have struggled with this, who want this more than anything, even if you don’t know why, even if you keep fucking it up and retreating to your privacy pod and beautiful, terrifying defense mechanisms which you needed THEN. Which you don’t need NOW.
Crabs grow but their exoskeletons don’t. If a crab is going to keep growing, every once in a while it has to ditch the shell.
Love, MP
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9 thoughts on “Eastern Chart People: How Alone Are You?”
“Thinking about the chart, in general: 5th House is the early stages of love. 7th House is the marriage, commitment. 8th House is INTIMACY. Between the 5th and 7th is what? 6th House i.e. WORK. It takes WORK.”
Hi Aliza…I know this is almost a week old but I found this particular comment you made really interesting. Does it only apply to the houses or do the cusps count too?
However you want, Xavier.Marmosa! I was thinking of the houses but get creative 🙂
My 4th house sag stellium wants a home to come back to, 11th house cancer stellium wants a stable home filled with a family that is more like friends and friends who are family. There are times when I can satisfy these needs but I have a habit of suddenly escaping for my own space and sanity. Sometimes I even find myself repulsed by people I used to love and I’m not sure why that is.
Today I know it’s 12th H t-venus in leo squaring my natal 3rd house Pluto while mars conjunct my natal chiron opposes my moon and uranus. Must be Venus in Leo inconjunct 5th H t-pluto rx in Capricorn. The love-lust i felt is buried under muddy resentment and disgust. There really is an underworld feel to it all. I feel done. Purged. :/
If 5th house is early stages of love, 6th house work, 7th house marriage, and 8th house intimacy….what’s the meaning of their cusp sign? I have Scorpio 5th house. The 6th, 7th, and 8th house are empty.
I have a pretty balanced chart with most planets distributed along my north/south axis. my lone Neptune is in the 12th. but I feel pretty alone. I have an 8th house moon so I crave emotional intensity/intimacy. my cancer north node is also there so I do believe that i’m supposed to be delving into this type of connection w/someone. but I still feel isolated mostly. probably because when I find someone I can actually connect to at this level, that cancer moon becomes the Smother Moon. and peeps are like, yikes… run!!
Well, they are the wrong people if they don’t love your sweet and delicious Cancer Moon, missy!
aww… thank you. but it’s in the scorpio house so maybe they see it as scary-sweet. or first sweet, THEN scary! haha!
oh yes! i have an eastern chart and while i have a steady, manageable level of solitude (ha) i’ve been feeling inexplicably isolated and yearning for companionship lately — this makes perfect sense. not quite sure how to strip the layers of armor but its definitely time for them to go. just the encouragement i needed to keep working.
When we make the effort, we get rewarded. People DO want to be with us. Thanks, V.