It was someone else’s idea. Not mine.
And I wrote two blog posts not even trying to address it, but sharing some personal details, mostly Sun signs.
Anyone can Google Scorpio and read SEX SEX SEX and ignore everything else about Scorpio, or research Aquarius and call them kinky but… it doesn’t amount to much. And I don’t believe consensual adult stuff is perverted anyway. It’s a cute title though 🙂
What IS interesting to me though is this:
that people have different sexual “personalities.” And this is something I used to think a lot about when I was in my 20’s, feeling that so-and-so was a bad match for me because our sexual personalities didn’t match up. He wasn’t enough this or wasn’t enough that and… my focus WAS more on that than actually RELATING to someone. I have an empty 7th House and my North Node is conjunct my 7th House cusp. And you know what they say about the Nodes: leave the South, join the North (to be overly simple).
Now what makes up a sexual personality? Well, the chart of course! Mars AND Venus. I think often folks dismiss Venus as having any part in the sexual personality. They say she’s all about charm and beauty and what you love and how you love but I promise you this — that my good friend’s Venus in Aquarius DEFINITELY influences his sexual tastes. Mars may be HOW he does it. But his Venus is WHO he wants to do it to.
And then there’s our friend Pluto, also important when considering how important sex is to the individual. Maybe important is the wrong word. The PART it plays.
So yeah look for this stuff in your own chart: Mars, Venus, Pluto, 8th House. Look for Chiron too. Why Chiron? Eh. Just a feeling 😉
In my earlier post I had written that I have a Moon Pluto conjunction in my 1st House and trying to explain to my boyfriend my experience of sex. I don’t mean my PHYSICAL experience of sex (although that is related) – but… how I… approach it, relate to it, how I FEEL it, the way it approaches ME, that all-consuming feeling, desire for intimacy which has nothing to do with objectification or recreation. It’s something else entirely. In fact, it’s something WHOLE. When it’s right, that is. And you know what else? It’ s not about getting off.
Yeah I can spend a long time talking about what something IS NOT in order to get at what it IS.
So there was this gap. Either due to our Mars opposition or for some other reason but I couldn’t explain what I meant. It was like trying to explain my hazel eyes.
Long story short? To be continued…
Mars? Venus? Pluto? What influences you the most sexually speaking?
xo
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3 thoughts on “Continuing My Continuing Series Of Not Writing “Perversion Around The Zodiac””
Venus in Aries in the 7th, opposite my Libra rising and inconjunct my first house Pluto. I’m pretty picky about who I’ll have sex with. I usually would know right after meeting someone if I’m into it or not. (Including with my now long term-SO), although it wasn’t like that when I was a teenager. Back then that pickiness meant waiting.
Mars in Sag. I think I’m an easy going and fun lover, but a somewhat difficult partner. I’ve driven men away before, or kept men as a friends with benefits type deal to avoid all the messy.. emotions. heh. Being introspective has helped in this regard, to better understand myself and what’s behind some of my behavior.
So… all of them?
Thought-provoking and timely, as I was doing a couple informal readings with friends and was reaching to articulate venus and mars placements. Guess it’s time for me to read up! 😉
They all do, but in order of ascending importance:
Pluto in Virgo: cleanliness and neatness are extremely important as is giving of myself (geez, how many times did I “put out” when I didn’t feel like it just because I thought it would benefit the other or hurt them if I didn’t?). Happy to report I no longer do it.
Venus Libra: need I say more? beauty, flirting, male/female dynamic, mental foreplay, food, wine, bonding, lolling around in bed just savouring lolling around in bed…
Mars in Aquarius: some detachment, elusiveness, quirkiness, experimenting or just variety to prevent boredom. Sometimes total disinterest sometimes quite the opposite. Of course, men with a dose of Aqua are highly attractive because they seem hard to pin down and they allow me the freedom I require.
Come to think of it Mars and Venus are of equal importance.
Re “perversions”: it relates to the concept of “normal”. Normal is what most people profess to do. Just because it is done by most people does not mean it is desirable, advisable, enjoyable, safe or healthy etc. An activity outside of this average bell curve between consenting adults may be no less enjoyable, yet may be safer or healthier than the norm.
Masturbation used to be a “perversion”, as everything other than the old missionary…
Even if it’s not exactly a series, thank you for continuing it. I love all this stuff- first house Pluto, duh.
For me, Pluto is a huge influence. When I was younger, it was Pluto in its covert, taboo-obsessed guise: I enjoyed revelling in the ‘naughtiness’ of certain things, while never really understanding why they fascinated me so much. While I don’t pretend to have everything figured out, at this point, at least I know that I have major power/control issues. There’s something of a Plutonian paradox, there, too: the men to whom I’m most attracted are those who willingly relinquish control, because it seems to me to be the ultimate show of power. Maybe there’s a kind of Pisces Sun martyr-fetish to it, too.
My Capricorn Venus is concerned with aesthetics: predictably, I prefer older men. It’s not their experience/stability; I just like the way they look.
As I’ve mentioned before, I have Chiron in my eighth house, in Taurus. All of my problems do come back to that, even more-so than my first house Saturn, which I can almost manage. Feeling unattractive is one thing, but feeling wrong is another.