Check Your Longing: A Cautionary Tale For Super-Neptunians

"venus in the 12th house"

I’ve written about this before but Pisces Season is bringing it up again.

What I want you to do is check your longing. And this post is addressed to Venus Neptune people. I am one of them. We are truly in Neptuneland now with the Sun, Neptune, Mercury, and Chiron in Pisces.  (And Athena but I don’t talk much about the gals around here. I suppose I should!)

The next time you feel that feeling for that guy or girl who isn’t really in a relationship with you even though you swear you’re in a relationship with him or her, check your longing. That longing you feel may be ALL YOURS  i.e. it’s YOUR beautiful love nature as opposed to… anything that THEY ARE DOING.

Really. It could be so. Try it. Check your perspective. Jupiter co-rules Pisces. You could be in love with love. You could be in love with YOU.

But more likely I think it’s your, yes, beautiful love nature (oh the longing!) that you are feeling and you are simply applying it to this human who is inspiring longing and pining in you and the only reason they are inspiring longing and pining in you is because THEY ARE NOT THERE. It is their absence which is the requirement for this particular love.

Venus in the 12th house and Venus Neptune people even more than most I would argue need Saturn, need reality, contact, touch. Because they CAN live a long time in fantasy, in the dream but then they wake up from the dream and they’re alone.

The signal for me that something isn’t quite right is when I start to feel that feeling. Not necessarily idealization of the lover but that ache, the longing and the pining and the endless distance. It’s like a fish just caught, flip flopping in infinity on the dock. And then it dies.

Don’t be a dead fish, okay?


Did you set your New Moon intentions yet?

PS James Joyce (pictured above) had Venus square Neptune and wrote, among other works, the short story collection Dubliners. Read it.

Edited to Add: Venus Neptune people WILL long and pine. That’s their nature. That’s fine. Thing is.. just make sure there is MORE to your relationship than longing and pining and hoping and dreaming and wanting and waiting. Can your sweet Neptuney relationship withstand the Saturn reality test? An important point I forgot to make and Mitraya in the comments inspired me to add this!

17 thoughts on “Check Your Longing: A Cautionary Tale For Super-Neptunians”

  1. I have Neptune on Asc but Venus square Saturn/Pluto and its like I’m the chick in the horror flick who the audience yells at “don’t go that way!” or “run!” and who still goes head first into trouble..
    I think its time for me to get a new script ;)

  2. I’ve done that, too – he told me he loved me, but I found out that he was “in love” with the girl he lost so many years before. I wouldn’t hate him if it weren’t for a whole bunch of other things.

    I have Neptune aspecting my Moon/Venus by transit – and my Mars, Uranus, ascendant and Nodes. I’m hoping to channel it – that’s what I used to do with my Mars in Pisces aspecting several things, and my Neptune trine Jupiter and MC. I would get lost in something I loved, and it would take away the pain from “over there”. As long as I was making something good, and working, I felt okay – or doing something that made me feel good. Now, I can feel happy for a few hours, but then I’m back to feeling as though there’s no hope left – not really.

    I hope that nobody’s picking on you, MP. I meant to say that under your other post about disturbing emails.

  3. Hello there! Venus trine Neptune calling….
    Thanks for this post. I know the longing and the pining all too freaking well. Did it just a month ago, and when the fog cleared, I saw all that there ever was. Nothing. All my longing and my pining, with nothing else.

  4. Bwahaha I’m a Venus-Neptune trine person and can totally relate. I have to do a few things to take the focus off the person…I put the person’s name at the top of a Word doc, and then I type the objective reality of this person – things they said and did when around me. If Venus-Neptune focuses only on the good, create two columns: Good and Bad.

    Then I re-direct my pining to something else, such as for nature.

    The bad thing about even the good aspects with Venus-Neptune is that the illusion can badly hurt you in the end. :(

  5. I have a tendency to pine after men who are pining after another woman. I don’t even have Venus Neptune :)

    I do wonder if it is all my other Neptune picking up on their pining and making it mine, which is another big problem of pisces/neptune. No boundaries, y’know? Have to be careful about what feelings are actually yours.

  6. Ugh where was this amazing article when my Venus Gemini and opposing Neptune in the twelfth were smacked with a solar eclipse back in June? This would have saved eight months of wasted time… And pining and longing.

    Does Pisces/Neptune waste time?

  7. With natal Neptune opposite Venus, I’m just learning to enjoy the pining (s&m kind of pain) while still doing a reality check.

    Sometimes it’s like fighting to stay awake, you know, the little jolts, coming to and going again, but you know you’ll fall asleep in the end. It’s just easier.

  8. So true, that’s why I had to end the relationship…since it turned out there wasn’t much there besides our longing and distant future plans. Oh well, learned a lot!

  9. Thank you
    You know what? Venus Neptune people WILL long/pine either way. They will. It’s their nature. Thing is… still.. check it. Maybe sure there’s MORE than the longing. I should add that to the post actually….

  10. Hahaha love the post. I can definitely relate…although my venus/neptune conjunction is in capricorn, and venus is even conjunct saturn on the other side. I tend to like my long distance relationships…I discovered in my last one that I loved the longing, the fantasizing. And this post is a good reminder that although I love the longing, these aspects ARE in Capricorn and thus ruled by the lovely Saturn.

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