“I lost everything. Again,” she said.
“Yeah.” I said. “You did.”
She told me later that this acknowledgement of her pain was the perfect thing.
It didn’t erase her pain or deny it. I knew what she meant.
So often, SO OFTEN, people (well meaning or not) won’t even let us have that. They rush to fix, to platitude, to invalidate, to tell us NOT to feel.
“Oh you don’t need to feel that.” There’s no NEED.
Um okay but I AM feeling it, so………….
I lived with someone once — oh man — I lived with someone once and I remember when I was upset at having been evicted and it was a couple months into the new place and I was crying and I was saying I JUST moved. It JUST happened. (In other words, I hurt and this is partly why.)
His response? You didn’t JUST move.
Unable to sympathize or empathize, he focused on the timeframe. Oh I didn’t JUST move. Some time had passed.
People like this leave me speechless. Why they choose to miss the point is none of my business. The only choice I/we have is who we keep in our lives. If you are stuck around people who destroy you on a daily basis, I hope you have support and someday will be free (if you choose) but that’s another story. I got free. I continually get free. And it is one of the hardest things in the world – to be that free and to dismiss abusive people from our lives. But I digress.
The reason I’m telling you this story is because Venus enters Capricorn today. Venus in Capricorn, at her best, takes herself seriously. Takes her values seriously. Takes her DESIRE seriously. What she wants MATTERS to her.
And how if we do not do this, if we do not listen to our Venus, we die a little more and a little more and a little more each day.
If you are struggling right now, I send you strength and love through the ether. That you find your way, safely.
You are so brave.
Venus in Capricorn, at her best, is similarly brave. We usually say Mars is brave etc etc etc the solider etc etc etc but when you dare to love yourself, as Venus MUST, everything changes.